March 2014

The Healing Journey

john picRecently, I attended MFR II with John Barnes in Captiva, FL.  The question was raised, “How long will it take me to heal, when will I be done?”.   As MFR therapists, we constantly work on our own healing processes.  Healing is a journey of discovery.  There is no focus on the outcome, just a willingness to feel and become more aware.  Once we are aware of what is happening in our bodies and minds, we can decide what to change, what to let go of, and what to embrace.

How long does it take to learn something new?  How long does it take to let go of old belief systems and open to new possibilities?  How long does it take to heal physical and emotional trauma?

As long as it takes us to feel, to soften, to open.

John shared this poem with us at the seminar.  I think it encapsulates the idea that we have what we need to change/fix/heal inside ourselves.  It is a message of hope.

“I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost… I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place.
But,  it isn’t my fault.
It still takes me a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in.  It’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.  I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down another street.”

― Portia Nelson, There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery